By Piet de Wit
Meintjeskop Courier
March 1992
Translated from the
Afrikaans
When Doris and I recently thought back after 33 years about
our wedding in Kenya on Friday, 26 September,1958, we could not but recall the
strange circumstances which led to our being married in English in the
Afrikaans Dutch Reformed Church in Nairobi.
After Patrick van Rensburg in Leopoldville burnt his
passport, joined the ANC and disappeared with the safe keys, I had to go there
for three months to normalise the office. While I was there the Department
decided to transfer me back to Head Office, little knowing that I had developed
an “office affair” in Nairobi with the head of mission, Mr Woodward’s secretary
who had assumed duty there only the year before.
Because the ship, the “Africa” of the Italian Lloyd
Triestino Line was due to leave Mombasa on the Monday morning, all our
arrangements made for us to be married on Friday afternoon and all our earthly
possessions, except our few bits of furniture, to be loaded in our blue
Volksie, so that we try to reach Mombasa the same evening.
The other matter we had to bear in mind was that we were to
be married under British law. In accordance with that the ceremony had to be
concluded before 6 pm. Otherwise it would not be legal. Little did we know what
an important factor that would be on the day.
The minister who was to marry us
was Ds Hoffie Louw of the Nairobi congregation. His congregation did, however, not only include the city and environs, but stretched from Thomson’s Valley to
Mombasa. Because of the long distances he had to do “home visits” by aircraft
As fate would have it in
precisely the week before our wedding he was in Mombasa and environs. What a
shock it was when he phoned me on the morning of our big day and advised me
that there were serious problems with his aircraft and he could probably not be
in Nairobi in time for our wedding.
All we could do was to try to
find another minister. Because the other Dutch Reformed ministers in East Africa
were too far away to get there in time, in desperation I had to turn to fellow
South African, the Rev Raymond Silberbauer of the Anglican Church in Nairobi.
He shocked me when he informed me that to his great regret he could not help us
as we were not of the same denomination.
He would, however, try to find a
Methodist, a Scot or a Presbyterian for us.
An hour later
he let me know that he had found a Scot, but the fellow required that Doris and
I should be catechised by him before he could marry us!
While all
these dramas were plying themselves out, my future bride was peacefully busy selecting flowers for our wedding.
Although she was by nature an excitable person, I must say that heard the
unexpected news quite calmly and appeared before the Scottish minister with me
a t 2 o’clock.
Fortunately the
Rev Mr Keltie soon discovered that the two of us did know something about the
Bible and he could start to inform us about the whole ceremony in English,
which was strange to us. Especially the “say after me” needed a bit of
practice, which left us very little time to get dressed.
By this time
we were, of course, biting our nails. As far as the timing of the ceremony was
concerned the minister suggested that Doris consciously arrive ten minutes
late, just in case Dominee Louw might still make it. (I have teased her ever
since that she has never been on time again.)
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